I was five years old, standing in the doorway of my mother’s bedroom, watching. She was at the mirror doing what she did most mornings looking at herself and finding herself wanting. I’m so fat. The words came quietly, almost to herself, but I heard every one of them. My hair is a mess. I… Read More »On self-compassion and the voice we inherit
Most personality tests can’t predict your future. Research shows that only two frameworks reliably forecast grades, income, health and happiness. Personality tests might be lying to you You’ve probably taken a personality test at some point. Maybe it was during a job interview, a team-building retreat, or a quiet Sunday afternoon when you stumbled onto… Read More »What Personality Tests Predict about Your Future
The longest study on human happiness (85 years, 2,000+ people) reveals that relationships, not money or success, predict health and longevity. The longest study on human wellbeing You’ve probably heard that happiness comes from success and money. Get the promotion. Buy the house. Retire early. Then you’ll finally be happy. But what if that formula… Read More »How to Achieve Happiness: The ONE Choice that Matter
Your attention span isn’t permanently broken and it’s trainable. This guide reveals neuroscience-backed strategies to rebuild focus in 30 days through dopamine resets, environmental design and ultradian rhythm optimization. What neuroscience reveals about your attention You’ve probably heard that humans now have shorter attention spans than goldfish. It gets repeated in TED talks, business meetings… Read More »How to fix and train your attention
This guide reveals how to identify low emotional intelligence through specific verbal cues, body language patterns and behaviors, and includes proven strategies to protect yourself in these interactions. Verbal and non-verbal signs of low emotional intelligence You’re in a meeting when a colleague dismisses your concern with a quick “you’re overreacting.” Later, your partner responds… Read More »How to deal with people with low emotional intelligence
My son called from university to tell me he’d decided to drop college because it isn’t making him happy. He is 20 years old and whether something makes him happy or not seems to be his primary criterion for decision-making. I wanted to explain that happiness isn’t a reliable compass for navigating life, that sometimes… Read More »The history of happiness
Learn 10 research-backed methods and prompts to use AI for deeper learning, critical thinking and skill development. Practical methods and prompts for learning Research studies shows that how we use AI chatbots matters more than whether we use them. Studies from institutions including the Wharton School and MIT have found that mindless engagement with chatbots… Read More »How to Use AI to Get Smarter (and not Dumber)
I found the box of photographs in the cupboard beneath the stairs. I wasn’t looking for them. I was looking for a screwdriver. But there they were, wedged behind some Christmas decorations and a broken vacuum cleaner, in a shoebox that had once held a pair of trainers I bought in 1998. I sat on… Read More »Middle aged: How did I get here?
We’ve spent roughly 2,500 years systematically misunderstanding what happiness actually is, and the we’re still getting it wrong, only now we’re doing it with better graphics and free two-day shipping. The ancient Greeks, the people who gave us democracy and philosophy, had this concept they called eudaimonia. It’s usually translated as “happiness,” which is like… Read More »A brief history of happiness
I’ve never been one of those people who “loves” exercise. You know the type, they bounce out of bed at 5 AM like golden retrievers, thrilled at the prospect of inflicting suffering upon themselves before most humans have achieved consciousness. I’ve always been more of a “negotiate with myself for twenty minutes about whether I… Read More »The Magic Pill (And Why We Keep Looking For Pills That Tastes Better)
