First dates succeed or fail based on one skill: making the other person feel genuinely seen and heard. Good first dates has nothing to do with what you wear A friend once told me about the best first date she ever went on. The guy wasn’t the tallest, the funniest or the best dressed. He… Read More »What to Do on Your First Date (and What Not to Do)
Last Tuesday, I ran into Lucy at the coffee shop, whom I hadn’t seen in months. She lit up when I asked how her pottery classes were going. “You remembered!” she said, beaming. That moment made me realise something I’d been doing unconsciously for years. While most people default to “How’s it going?” in conversations,… Read More »Make people feel valued with little memories
Across the room stood Martin, a guy from accounting whom everyone crowded around. Martin, who wore mismatched socks and laughed too loudly at his own jokes. Martin, who somehow knew everyone’s name and had them all smiling. What did he have that I didn’t? I started studying him and others like him. People who seemed… Read More »The 30-Second Rule to Win Every Conversation
