Are you happy?

Many believe external events, such as winning the lottery, could elevate their happiness. However, research suggests that this is not the case. Studies have demonstrated that our level of happiness tends to remain stable, even after negative or positive life events. A 1978 study by psychologist Philip Brickman found that even major events like winning the lottery or being paralyzed in an accident have no long-term impact on our happiness levels. Similarly, psychologist David Lykken’s 1996 study of twins concluded that at least 50 percent of the human ability to be happy is based on genes, with external factors like money and education accounting for only about three percent. So, what truly contributes to our happiness?

The book “Don’t Trust Your Gut,” explores the vast amount of data available today to uncover what truly makes us happy. Through extensive research, Stephens-Davidowitz shows how data analysis can provide insights into what genuinely contributes to happiness. By examining the Mappiness Project and other studies, he unveils activities that consistently bring joy, such as socializing, intimacy, engaging in hobbies, and spending time in nature. By shedding light on these intriguing insights, Stephens-Davidowitz prompts us to reconsider our intuitive decision-making, challenge societal expectations, and seek a deeper understanding of what truly brings happiness in our lives.

Here are some suggestions from the book on what you can do to increase your happiness:

Consult the data

Instead of relying solely on your intuition or gut feelings, consider the available data and evidence when making important decisions. For example, if you’re considering opening a business, look at similar businesses’ success rates and average lifespans to make an informed choice.

Prioritize socializing and meaningful connections

Engage in activities that involve socializing and spending time with friends and loved ones. According to studies, activities like socializing, being with your romantic partner, and engaging in intimate relationships tend to contribute to higher levels of happiness.

Engage in enjoyable activities

Find activities that bring you joy and make time for them. This could include hobbies, going to museums or exhibitions, gardening, or engaging in activities you find personally fulfilling. These activities don’t necessarily require significant financial investment and can contribute to your overall happiness.

Consider work-life balance

While work is important, pay attention to your work-life balance. Research suggests that enjoying the company of your colleagues has a significant impact on your happiness at work. Focus on building positive relationships with coworkers and finding fulfilment in your professional life.

Understand the role of money

Money can contribute to happiness, but its impact tends to level off after a certain point. Research indicates that the happiness gained from additional income diminishes once income reaches a certain threshold (around $75,000). Instead of solely pursuing financial gains, consider other factors that contribute to your well-being.

Embrace simple pleasures

Find joy in the simple things in life. Spending time in nature, taking a hike with friends, or having a day with your romantic partner without worrying about other distractions can bring happiness. Avoid excessive use of social media or engaging in leisure activities that provide little fulfilment.

Remember that happiness is subjective, and what works for one person may not work for another. It’s important to explore different activities, prioritize self-care, and reflect on what truly brings you joy and fulfilment in life.

Highlights from “Don’t trust your guts”

A person who is happy outside their relationship is far more likely to be happy inside their relationship.

Reference list

Brickman, P., Coates, D., & Janoff-Bulman, R. (1978). Lottery winners and accident victims: is happiness relative? J Pers Soc Psychol, 36(8), 917-927. https://doi.org/10.1037//0022-3514.36.8.917

Lykken, D., & Tellegen, A. (2016). Happiness Is a Stochastic Phenomenon. Psychological Science, 7(3), 186-189. https://doi.org/10.1111/j.1467-9280.1996.tb00355.x

Stephens-Davidowitz, S. (2022). Don’t Trust Your Gut: Using Data to Get What You Really Want in Life. Dey Street Books.