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How to be self-aware?

How to be self-aware

According to Carl Jung, the first half of life is focused on ego and external goals, while the second half is a period of inward exploration and integration. The second half is marked by a reevaluation of values and a focus on deeper relationships and genuine meaning. This can be emotionally challenging but presents an opportunity for profound transformation and self-discovery. To navigate this period, we should embrace introspection, make time for quiet reflection, explore emotions and recurring themes, and seek connections that nourish our souls.

A time for inward exploration and integration

Building on Carl Jung’s perspective, modern research on self-awareness offers valuable insights into the process of self-discovery. However, it also reveals potential pitfalls and limitations of introspection alone.

The paradox of introspection

Recent studies have uncovered a surprising paradox in the practice of introspection. While “embracing introspection” is often considered a path to greater self-awareness, excessive self-reflection can sometimes lead to negative outcomes. Research found that individuals who scored high on self-reflection measures were more stressed, depressed, and anxious and less satisfied with their jobs and relationships.

This counterintuitive finding suggests that the way we approach introspection matters significantly. Asking “why” questions about our thoughts and behaviours can lead to unproductive rumination, while focusing on “what” questions may be more effective in gaining genuine self-insight.

Balance introspection with external feedback

While self-reflection can provide valuable insights, our self-perceptions are often biased or incomplete. Seeking input from others can help fill these gaps and provide a more rounded view of ourselves.

“Seeking connections that nourish our souls” enhances our well-being and contributes significantly to our self-awareness. Research has shown that individuals from conversation-oriented families, where open communication is encouraged, tend to have a more positive journey of self-discovery. These environments foster personal growth and self-exploration.

Asking others “Who am I?”

Engaging trusted friends, family members, and colleagues in discussions about your identity can provide valuable external perspectives. This approach can help overcome the limitations of self-reflection alone and offer insights that may be difficult to obtain through introspection. When seeking feedback:

  1. Choose individuals who know you well and can provide honest, constructive input.
  2. Ask specific questions about your traits, behaviours, or how you’re perceived in different contexts.
  3. Remain open to feedback, even if it challenges your self-perceptions.

While seeking external perspectives is valuable, it’s important to approach this process mindfully:

  • Balance external input with self-reflection: While others’ views are valuable, they shouldn’t completely override your own self-understanding.
  • Be aware of biases: Others’ perceptions may be influenced by their biases or limited contexts in which they know you.
  • Consider the source: Feedback from different people may vary based on their relationship with you and the contexts in which they interact with you.

By combining thoughtful self-reflection with external perspectives and nurturing meaningful connections, you can develop a more balanced and accurate sense of self-awareness. This holistic approach can lead to personal growth, improved relationships, and a deeper understanding of your authentic self.

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