Last Tuesday, I ran into Lucy at the coffee shop, whom I hadn’t seen in months. She lit up when I asked how her pottery classes were going. “You remembered!” she said, beaming. That moment made me realise something I’d been doing unconsciously for years. While most people default to “How’s it going?” in conversations,… Leia mais "Make people feel valued with little memories
Across the room stood Martin, a guy from accounting whom everyone crowded around. Martin, who wore mismatched socks and laughed too loudly at his own jokes. Martin, who somehow knew everyone’s name and had them all smiling. What did he have that I didn’t? I started studying him and others like him. People who seemed… Leia mais "The 30-Second Rule to Win Every Conversation
I once watched my six-year-old nephew have a complete meltdown over a broken toy car. His parents tried everything: they offered to buy him a new one, attempted to distract him with other toys, and even explained how the wheel could be glued back on. Nothing worked. Then his grandmother sat down beside him, looked… Leia mais "How to make someone feel seen and heard
I used to think showing love was simple. You say “I love you,” you buy gifts on special occasions, you help around the house, you spend time together, you kiss goodnight. Basic human stuff, right? Wrong. When my husband stopped responding to my affection, I doubled down. More “I love yous.” More surprise gifts. More… Leia mais "The 5 Love Languages
For years, I watched my friendships fade one by one. Not because I stopped caring, but because coordinating calendars became impossible. Life got in the way with work, family and a thousand competing priorities. Most productivity advice overlooks this crucial aspect of our lives. Our social connections need maintenance just like everything else. Life gets… Leia mais "Start a Standing Order Social Event
My mother and I couldn’t be more different as parents. When my son refuses to eat dinner, I offer alternatives. My mother would have sent me to bed hungry. When my daughter talks back, I explain why her words hurt. My mother would have washed my mouth with soap. For years, I judged her harshness… Leia mais "The 4 Parenting Styles
Who calls without texting first? What emergency prompted this? My mind raced through worst-case scenarios as I answered with a tentative “Hello?” To my surprise, my old friend Jake, simply wanted to hear how I was doing. That spontaneous five-minute call left me strangely energized. I realized how rare voice connection had become in my… Leia mais "The 8-minute phone call
Durante anos, fui reprovado no teste do círculo do inferno, mesmo sem saber que ele existia. Eu via alguém pairando à beira de uma conversa, claramente querendo participar, e não fazia nada. Eu continuava conversando, fingindo não notar o meio sorriso estranho e o peso que ele estava mexendo. Eu dizia a mim mesmo que atrair estranhos para o nosso bate-papo em grupo não era... Leia mais "O teste do círculo do inferno
Today, I watched my daughter fight a dragon. She sat cross-legged on our porch swing, book propped open, completely still except for her eyes and the occasional flick of a page. Yet everything in her body language, the tension in her shoulders, the slight lean forward, the barely audible gasp, told me she was somewhere… Leia mais "Read fiction to improve your social skills
Scientists who study couples in conflict labs have noticed something strange: partners rarely fight about what they think they’re fighting about. That argument that starts with “You never take out the trash” or “Why didn’t you call me back?” almost never ends there. Within minutes, couples spiral into accusations about respect, care, and whether they… Leia mais "The 90-10 Rule of Conflict
