Scientists who study couples in conflict labs have noticed something strange: partners rarely fight about what they think they’re fighting about. That argument that starts with “You never take out the trash” or “Why didn’t you call me back?” almost never ends there. Within minutes, couples spiral into accusations about respect, care, and whether they… Les mer "The 90-10 Rule of Conflict
I stood in the middle of Mark’s massive penthouse, staring out at the skyline through floor-to-ceiling windows. Everything around me screamed success. Expensive art on the walls, designer furniture, and a kitchen that would make a professional chef jealous. “Pretty amazing place you’ve got here,” I said, accepting the glass of wine he handed me.… Les mer "Make connecting a habit
What’s the secret to a happy, lasting relationship? Some say it’s compatibility and having common values, goals and interests to bond over. Others claim the key is physical chemistry and passion. Still others emphasize acts of service, gift-giving, or quality time. While all those factors matter, there’s a foundational element that often gets overlooked: Good… Les mer "The 20-minute connection ritual every couple needs
We’ve all been there. The knot in your stomach as you wait for a meeting you know will be unpleasant. The racing heart and sweaty palms as you try to find the right words. The sinking feeling as a conversation goes off the rails despite your best efforts. Difficult conversations are unavoidable, but for most… Les mer "Hvordan gjennomføre vanskelige samtaler
My default mode when friends or family share their struggles has always been to fix things. I’m a problem-solver by nature, so my mind immediately starts analyzing the situation and generating solutions. But over the years, this approach created friction in my relationships. I’d offer suggestions and insights, only to be met with resistance or… Les mer "Do you want to be helped, heard or hugged?
You know that sinking feeling when a conversation with your partner veers into the “You always…” zone? Maybe you’re dishing those statements out yourself, watching your loved one’s face fall with each accusation. I’ve been on both sides of that interaction. And let me tell you, it never ends well. I certainly made my share… Les mer "Bruk "jeg føler"-utsagn for bedre relasjoner
Relasjonene våre er spredt utover utallige digitale album og minner fra sosiale medier. Men det er nettopp i de frosne øyeblikkene at nøkkelen til å utdype våre relasjoner i det virkelige liv ligger. Når vi behandler fotosamlingene våre som en inngangsport til samtale i stedet for som fortidens kirkegård, blir de et verktøy for å holde båndene våre levende. Kameraene våre... Les mer "Bruk bildene dine til å få kontakt med dine nærmeste igjen
Early in my marriage, conversations with my spouse often left me feeling resentful and unappreciated. I couldn’t understand why my partner wasn’t meeting my needs despite my constant reminders of what I wanted. Sound familiar? It took me years to realize I was going about it all wrong. I wasn’t expressing my needs effectively. Demanding… Les mer "Make requests, not demands
Two years into my marriage, the honeymoon phase ended with a silent, sudden crash. Suddenly, everything that was once endearing about my husband now got on my last nerve. Leaving dirty socks on the floor, forgetting to take out the trash, chewing too loudly – each tiny irritation compounded until I found myself wondering, “What… Les mer "Choose to love your partner (in hard times)
We’ve all been there – a friend calls in tears, a family member shares devastating news, a coworker breaks down in the office. In those heart-wrenching moments, it’s painfully clear: you can’t fix their anguish with a snap of your fingers. The hurt is real and raw. Advice and solutions, however well-intentioned, often ring hollow.… Les mer "7 phrases to comfort someone in crisis
