In the summer of 1998, while the world watched the Clinton scandal unfold and Google took its first steps in a garage, a group of college graduates sat in the Texas heat listening to Kurt Vonnegut. Most of what he said that day has been forgotten, but one story about his Uncle Alex and a… Læs mere "If this isn’t nice, what is?
The prevailing wisdom has always been clear: success = hard work + long hours. Want to write a book, start a business, get in the best shape of your life? Then buckle up and get ready to toil without ceasing. Breaks are for the weak and unmotivated. But what if our work-till-you-drop cultural ethos has… Læs mere "The power of planned breaks for your productivity
I thought the message was always very clear: keep the hanky panky out of the bedroom if you want to catch quality Z’s. Sex, we’re told, is mentally stimulating, physically energizing – the exact opposite of what you need to drift off to dreamland. But the latest research says that sex is far from being… Læs mere "Sex as a sleep aid: Get intimate between the sheets
The RISA framework is a 4-step method from a two-time world debate champion. Transforms arguments from confrontations you try to win into collaborative problem-solving that strengthens relationships and actually resolves conflicts. For most of my life, I thought arguing was about proving I was right. I’d latch onto my viewpoint with a death grip, using… Læs mere "How to argue using the RISA framework
Resist loss of the miraculousby lowering your standardsfor what constitutes a miracle. It is all a fucking miracle. Resume the facethe desolate facethe radiant facethe face that has become your own. Though all your life you have resisted it. (Louise Erdrich, Advice to myself #2: Resistance)
When I moved away from home for the first time, loneliness wasn’t the only emotion that surprised me. Even more unexpected was the sheer force of my anger in the face of daily frustrations. Slow traffic sent me into a blinding rage. A missed deadline at work left me shaking. The mildest slights from my… Læs mere "How to control you anger: Why venting doesn’t help and what to do instead
I used to think checklists were boring. They were the tedious stuff of supply closets and employee handbooks, a sign that you were nothing but a cog in a machine, blindly following orders from higher-ups. Little did I realize that checklists would become the tool to set me free. When designed well, checklists do more… Læs mere "The power of checklists
As a self-proclaimed night owl, I’ve always envied people who could fall asleep at the drop of a hat. You know the type – the ones who can doze off on a crowded train or take a power nap in the middle of a busy workday. For me, falling asleep was a nightly battle, one… Læs mere "The Navy SEAL fall asleep fast technique
It’s 2 AM. You’re exhausted, but your mind won’t shut off. Thoughts of tomorrow’s meetings, unanswered emails, and looming deadlines dance behind your eyelids, taunting you. You’ve tried counting sheep, sipping chamomile tea, even listening to soothing rain sounds. But still, sleep eludes you. Enter the humble bedtime to-do list – an unexpected ally in… Læs mere "Write your to-do’s and get back to sleep
Vi har alle været der. Din partner fylder opvaskemaskinen på en måde, der får dig til at spærre øjnene op. Din kollega afleverer en rapport fyldt med fejl. Din ven kommer for sent til jeres frokostaftale igen. Små irritationsmomenter, men de irriterer dig. Du ved, at du er nødt til at sige noget, men du frygter det. Så du... Læs mere "Kompliment-sandwhichen til bedre feedback i parforholdet
